Marriage is said to be an institution from which you cannot graduate, it’s a journey that is only ended by death.
Before getting married, consider what you getting yourself, and who you are starting the journey with because it’s a long-term contract that will require a mentally prepared person to embark on the journey.
Below are five ways to tell if you are fully fine and prepared to get married.
1. You are psychologically mature.
First on the list is psychological maturity. This goes beyond what we see and think. This has nothing to do with age because there’s someone who’s 50 years old and even more but still has a low mentality. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to see yourself being a liability to someone.
How do you test your level of psychological maturity?
Research has proven that age plays a key role in maturity.
A Nigerian Doctor, Noah Clayman has said that yhe ability to elevate long-term repercussions and weigh decisions isn’t fully matured in most people’s brains.
He advised that it is good to get married until you have had a fully matured mind which can help push your marital home.
2. You accept conflict and do it constructively
How you react to a conflict especially when you are angry is one of the key ways to test yourself whether or not you are ready for marriage.
Consider and look into the following questions and you will find out if your reaction to conflict is good or otherwise.
Do you like to avoid conflict or go all out?
After a conflict partner, do you sit back and reflect on how it all happened? Do you realize your mistake and apologize? Are you an agent of peace?
Also, if your courtship and dating relationship is full of stress, please do away with the idea of marriage, so that you avoid risking yourself.
Every relationship has arguments, and the purpose of conflict is to reach an agreement.
3. You confidently know yourself
To know that you are fully ready for marriage, first have first confidence, get to know yourself well, and know the things that pit you on and off.
Find out from yourself if you feel comfortable with the life you’ve been living. Don’t get bothered if the answers that will come out are positive or negative.
The simple reason you should know yourself is that you should be able to study, learn and read the mindset of your suitor. If you cannot do this to yourself, how possible will you do it to your partner? It’s impossible.
4. You can easily say I’m sorry
In all our aspects of life, realizing your mistake, and saying sorry and thank you opens closed doors for us and mends broken relationships.
Channeling it down to relationships, saying sorry is hard for some people and if you are one of those, sorry to burst your bubble, you are not ready for marriage. You may end up destroying your beautiful relationship.
However, if you are someone who’s able to say sorry for the slighted mistake, you are a germ and marriage is meant for you.
Many have it at the back of their minds that saying sorry makes them vulnerable and weak but that philosophy I must say does not exist and it’s the lazy man’s approach and excuse.
Saying I’m sorry makes you more mature and builds your relationship stronger than before.
You’ll have the ability to maintain a long-term relationship if you can say I’m sorry honestly and authentically.
